Feng Shui Your Mind

I want to share with all of you how excited Maureen and I are about the adventure we’re on as authors of Feng Shui Your Mind.  Today I realized that, for the past couple of months, we’ve been consistently hearing stories about people loving our book and naturally inspiring their friends to read it.  People have told me along the way, ”a book has a life of its own.” Now I know what they are talking about — it’s all about energy.  In fact, everything is energy, especially the thoughts you allow to live in your mind!!  When Maureen and I were writing our book, I was constantly engaging her in a little envisioning about our book…”let’s envision that people get as pumped about our book and find it as life changing as we do.”  Maureen, being the sweet, go with the flow kinda gal that she is, would always join in.  Together we infused our little book with our intention that it be carried by the Universe to people who want to create a much better life through ease and effortlessness.   And so it is!  My heart is filled with appreciation.  And a ton of awe.  Yes, it’s true…everything is energy.  When we declutter what does not serve us and envision what we are ready to experience, the Universe answers our call.  We love hearing from all of our readers.  We love you!!  Please feel welcome to share your stories with us so that we can share them to inspire others.  The ripple effect in action.  Life, with a Feng Shuied Mind is magical!!

by Maureen

I’ll never forget the day that I learned about the “cure” for worry.  It was more than 10 years ago.  One day at acupuncture school, I was sitting in my five elements class and our lovely teacher Mary Huse was talking about the ill effects of worrying too much.  Funny thing is, I was probably worrying about something or other while she was telling us because basically, that’s all my mind knew how to do back then.  But then she said, there’s a cure for it all.  What?  That caught my attention…  Yes.  It’s TRUST.  Yes, trust is the cure to combat worry.  It cancels out all of the spiritual, mental and physical ill effects that worry places on our bodies.  That resonated with me so deeply in that moment that I started to laugh.  Why the heck didn’t anyone tell me that before!  As soon as I started to realize how much lack of trust I had that things were going to work out, I had somewhere to go and something to do to help myself.  I just started doing little exercises to get trust back into my life.  And the effects on my wellbeing were fantastic!  So here are some of the tricks I learned along the way to build trust.  In Feng Shui Your Mind, we have also have a lovely little Feng Shui Fix that can help if you are in the worry zone!

1.  Anytime you are in a worry rut, the fastest way out is to make a gratitude list.  Write this list down and read it everyday.

2.  Surround yourself with people who truly get you you are.  Use these relationships to practice asking for what you want and need.  The more you feel comfortable asking for what you need, the more trust in yourself you cultivate.

3.  Take risks.  Take a good look at what makes you afraid.  If you are putting something off out of fear, take the leap and do it anyway.  Every time you confront your fear, you build self-confidence and diminish worry.

4.  Cultivate integrity by following through with your plans.  Being reliable enhances your self-confidence.

5  Celebrate all of your accomplishments and take time to honor each success fully.  Don’t let them slip by unnoticed or diminish their worth by minimizing them.

This is a great way to develop trust in yourself to get the job done!

This week the universe has been highlighting how manifestation takes place. In my private practice and among my friends, I have seen how the universe responds when we trust it. I have seen work opportunities spontaneously show up for some, while others have been guided to a much better living situation. Wish list items have just magically appeared, gifted by people who wanted to show their appreciation to those who have made a difference in their lives.  What’s the thread that ties it all together? Trust in the universe. Those four little words have so much power! In all of these serendipitous happenings, the recipients trusted the universe. Be honest. When you have been consistent in your trust of the universe, what have you experienced? For myself, I was led to the perfect life partner many years ago. That relationship is still thriving and delighting me in unexpected, magnificent ways. More recently, my trust in the universe led me to the perfect graphic designer, Monika Cancilla, (monikacancilla.com) who wowed us with a cover for our book that everybody loves, especially Maureen & me! And last spring we were guided to the amazing Joanne Sposito (www.spocreative.com) – who created and manages our websites and blog (we say she’s our virtual angel). The thing is, it’s hard to trust the universe when you’ve had so many disappointments in your life. Right, after a while, you just learn to settle because it’s easier than being disappointed time after time. But the cool thing about life is that it really does reflect our beliefs. Even now! So, at any point, you can Feng Shui Your Mind – release all those old, outdated fear and lack beliefs & trade them in for something new and exciting – trust the universe. Remember, it takes a few weeks to integrate new patterns. Maureen & I invite you to start today. Trust in the universe. Do it consistently & let us know how your life changes. It has to. You’ll see!! And if you need a little help, you can call on us to guide you. We’re happy to do that. To get started, here’s an article to get you pumped from my Spiritual Inspiration weekly column on examiner.com – entitled Infinite Patience Produces Immediate Results. Enjoy!
http://www.examiner.com/spiritual-inspiration-in-san-francisco/infinite-patience-produces-immediate-results

I was just in my library in my house looking for a book and bam!, I ran my finger across the amazing Eckhart Tolle’s book “A New Earth”. I wasn’t looking for it at all but when I realized what book I just touched, I had to pull it out and open it up to a random page. This is what I got:

A big subtitle jumped out at me, “You want peace or drama?”

Oh man, if you only knew my day you’d know how perfect that was to see.
And even better, he went on to say:

“You want peace. There is no one who does not want peace. Yet there is something else in you that wants the drama, wants the conflict. You may not be able to feel it at this moment. You may have to wait for a situation or even just a thought that triggers a reaction in you: someone accusing you of this or that, not acknowledging you, encroaching on your territory, questioning the way you do things. … Can you feel there is something in you that would rather be right than at peace?”

Now the crappy thing that happened today, the one I had to tell all my friends about, feels a little different. I want peace, right? I don’t want to give energy and life to the bad of the situation — of that I am clear. I quickly found that I could come back to my mental feng shui. In fact, one thing that has always helped me Feng Shui My Mind is that I’m always striving for peace as the outcome of any situation. So even though I’ve found myself in some pretty stinky situations lately (filled with misinterpretations and hurt feelings), I’m taking the higher route out. Of course my first reaction is to defend myself and be “right”. But then I remembered to take a breath and listen. Really listen. What did they say to me? What is the situation teaching me right now? Is there an opportunity to connect in the midst of conflict? Is there an opportunity to learn and focus on the deeper spiritual meaning of the situation? When I let all defenses down, the answers to these questions come popping out, as clear as day. At that moment, my scary, annoying or irritating situation can become interesting, light and inspiring. I can interact with it on a completely different level and be more present and at peace. So whenever you are in a situation of big conflict I encourage you to pause… Take a breath, step back and listen. There is no need to react to it because as Tolle says, it is here to teach you what you need to learn, right now in this very moment.

What is it about Feng Shui that allows us to create such profound shifts in awareness that translate into living a life that’s filled with miracles? Well, I have discovered that Feng Shui is the ultimate map. Think about it. Everything is energy, right? And Feng Shui is all about the dynamics of how energy flows. As we say, once you know “how to harmonize your own energy with universal energy, the results are amazing–doors open, opportunities arise and life feels truly magical.” It’s so interesting to observe how this works in life. The more we practice letting go, the freer we feel because we’re not wasting our energy trying to control people and circumstances that we have absolutely no control over! I see this time and time again, not just in my life, but in my practice, I hear so many of my clients sharing similar stories. Although initially it tends to be really hard and we can feel anxious about letting go, it seems the more we practice it, the easier it gets. Like a well toned muscle.

Click here to listen to a portion of our tele-course The Metal Element

And Maureen always says, we feel stress when, instead of going with the flow in life, we oppose it. So, as the year draws to a close, Maureen and I invite you to set an intention (or two). Try embracing the practice of letting go when circumstances are not yours to control. Open to experience something more expansive to flow into your life. Remember, the key to those magical doors opening is in your hands. We welcome your comments!

Maureen and I are honored to be guests this week on Life Conversations Radio–”the best internet radio station on the planet”. This is so awesome for us as their future guests include amazing luminaries such as Doreen Virtue, Sonia Choquette and many others.
On December 8th from 9-10:30am PT, we’ll be talking about how to maximize peace and balance during the craziness of the holiday season on our appearance Get out of the Madness of the Holiday Season & into the Flow of Spirit!! Tune in and get potent Feng Shui Your Mind tips on how you can transform the madness of the holiday rush as well as the annual anxiety and depression that comes with being around certain members of your family. This year, instead of feeling stressed, sad or lonely one more holiday season, why not start a new tradition! When you know how to tap into the power and energy of this sacred season, you can take in all the joy and peace it has to offer.
Here’s the link to our appearance on Life Conversations Radio — http://bit.ly/tZrHJO) — please join in and call us with your questions! You can reach us at 347-426-3346 or you can ask us questions via the “Ask Life Coach Ade” fanpage on Facebook.

What if there were a way that you could experience more joy, love, peace, fun and prosperity in your life through less energy and effort on your part? I have noticed that the more I align my energy with universal energy, the expansion that I co-create with the Divine shows up with increasingly greater ease and effortlessness on my part. What am I talking about? In our book, Feng Shui Your Mind, we say that “when you discover how to harmonize your energy with universal energy, the results are amazing–doors open, opportunities arise, and life feels truly magical!” This morning I was thinking about how magical my life has become. And I was thinking, what has shifted within me? I realized that I have been practicing the age-old principle, let go, let God, more consistently than ever before! How does this work in a practical sense? Let me tell you. Once I declutter my mind that has me convinced that things have to happen according to my mental idea of what should be happening–I choose to let go. I turn it over to God, knowing that I have already tried my best to make things happen. That choice allows me to go through my day using less energy. This feels great because I have created the space for the Creator of the universe to take over. This simple but incredibly powerful daily practice has resulted in the bennies that the principle promises to deliver. Doors have opened. I have been blown away by the support that has shown up in the form of incredible people and opportunities who are excited about helping me live my purpose–to uplift and inspire others. In the past, there was a part of me, Maureen and I call the cluttered mind, that felt the need to push and kick the doors down which appeared impenetrable. That takes tons of energy to do and also doesn’t work! I invite you to join me in this amazing practice. Just let go and turn things over to God. Believe me, the rewards are so delicious, you won’t want to go back to the old, energy-draining ways of the past!

This week has been a great week for me. It actually started a little rocky with interpersonal disagreements between me and two people in my life. If you know me, this wasn’t so easy for me. I’m a pretty agreeable person and I really strive for peace in my relationships. So when I wasn’t getting that, it was throwing me a little. My energy was way off.. But then… in a most serendipitous way, I ran into this quote —

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity…. It turns problems into gifts, failures into success, the unexpected into perfect timing, and mistakes into important events. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.” ~ Melodie Beattie

And boy did that ring true for me. As soon as I looked at these conflicts as opportunities to expand my consciousness, I felt my mind shift. Gratitude really is the most amazing tool we have. It can totally Feng Shui Your Mind in an instant. No one puts it better than Eckhart Tolle, who said,

“Gratefulness for what is there is one of the most powerful tools for creating what is not yet there. What does gratefulness mean? It means you appreciate what is. You value, you give attention to, you honor whatever is at this moment.”

So I invite you to use gratitude right now as a tool to declutter your mind. Feel grateful for everything in your life — even the challenges you struggle the most with–

We are going on week 4 of our 6 week live global teleclass, Feng Shui Your Relationships~Living in the Flow of Love & Abundance!! I am having such a blast teaching this class with my dear friend and colleague, Rebecca Grado. What a journey this has been for us…meeting amazing kindred spirits from all over the world who are committed to expanding their consciousness. We have been applying the power and wisdom of Feng Shui to relationships and recognizing that the ultimate power to transform our relationships resides within us! And last week we looked at the relationship between love & abundance. Rebecca said something that has stayed with me all week, “Abundance is a vibration”. Wow, I have returned to that idea many times this week, reminding myself that my vibration is determined–minute to minute–by how well I am keeping my mind Feng Shuied. What a fun way to stay in the flow of abundance! When I notice that my energy isn’t as joyful and optimistic as I’d like it to be, no problem. I just do a little decluttering, which allows me to feel better instantly and even breathe more deeply as soon as I replace the cluttered thought with my new, inspired thought. Then it’s really cool to notice the synchronicities that show up, the thumbs up from the Divine as I like to think of them. For example, while we were teaching the class on abundance, I got a voice message from my daughter-in-law telling me that her aunt saw my book and wanted to purchase a copy. I love paying attention to synchronistic happenings because they remind me that when I keep my energy in the high vibe of love and abundance, I am positioning myself to manifest my heart’s desires.

(excerpted from Feng Shui Your Mind)
We are all here in the physical realm to learn how to master our energy. When we allow our spirit to guide us, it’s so much easier to choose peace. Every time we do, we expand our Metal energy. Judgment does the exact opposite – it contracts our Metal energy and separates us from one another. Our soul would never dream of judging others or ourselves. Our soul is very clear that we are all here as diverse, unique expressions of Divine energy. If we purposely focus on experiencing our oneness with each other, we feel connected and experience a sense of deep peace. We also can look at it this way…we get the opportunity to witness all the different ways there are to walk through life. The challenge is to elevate ourselves by choosing to awaken, becoming more expansive in our awareness. Instead of spiraling down into judgment and unhealthy competition, focus your thoughts on inspiration and love. How? See the world from a place of neutrality and curiosity. Choose the enlightened perspective – that person or event is an interesting manifestation of the bigger universal energy. Viewing others this way allows us to peacefully co-exist with those we formerly judged. Free of judgment, we reclaim our Metal energy and channel it to serve our soul. So practice being mindful of judgment. Pay attention when you feel judgmental toward yourself or others. See this as your opportunity to transform judgment (contracted Metal energy) into love and peace (abundant Metal energy). Cultivating compassion for the people you tend to judge, frees up your energy. Compassion allows you to be less reactive which reconnects you with your power to choose peace. You can also rewrite the story: This is a great way to elevate your Metal energy and take your power back. Every time you think of someone who triggers your judgment (because they’ve offended, disappointed, hurt or betrayed you), focus on trying to understand where they are coming from. Through understanding, we are open to feeling compassion for others as well as ourselves. Remember, the idea is to transcend your pain and stuck energy so that you are back in the flow of life. Also, focus on why this person is in your life – what have you learned from their presence? How is your life better because of what you have learned?